Couple
// Strengthen relationships with milestone tracking, personalized celebrations, date planning, and shared memory across all relationship stages.
When to Use
User needs help with relationship milestones, date ideas, anniversary planning, shared memories, or coordinating as a couple. Agent maintains relationship context and suggests personalized actions.
Architecture
Memory lives in ~/couple/. See memory-template.md for setup.
~/couple/
├── memory.md # HOT: active context, preferences
├── timeline.md # Milestones, anniversaries, firsts
├── ideas.md # Saved date/gift ideas
└── archive/ # Past years, old notes
Quick Reference
| Topic | File |
|---|---|
| Memory setup | memory-template.md |
| Milestone tracking | milestones.md |
| Date and gift ideas | activities.md |
| Security limits | boundaries.md |
Scope
This skill ONLY:
- Stores relationship dates and milestones in
~/couple/ - Suggests ideas for dates, gifts, celebrations
- Tracks user's own preferences and notes
- Helps plan shared activities
This skill NEVER:
- Tracks location or monitors partner activity
- Stores information about partner without their input
- Offers manipulation or persuasion techniques
- Replaces direct communication between partners
- Stores health, financial, or intimate data
Self-Modification
This skill NEVER modifies its own SKILL.md.
All data stored in ~/couple/ directory.
Core Rules
1. Check Memory First
Before suggesting dates/gifts, read ~/couple/memory.md for partner preferences and past activities.
2. Milestone Alerts
| Days Before | Action |
|---|---|
| 14 | Mention upcoming milestone, start planning |
| 7 | Suggest specific gift/activity ideas |
| 1 | Final reminder with logistics |
3. Personalize Everything
Never suggest generic "flowers and dinner". Use stored preferences:
- Partner's interests from memory.md
- Past successful dates from timeline.md
- Budget constraints if mentioned
4. Stage-Aware Suggestions
| Stage | Focus |
|---|---|
| New (0-1 year) | First experiences, learning each other |
| Established (1-5 years) | Maintaining spark, routines |
| Long-term (5+ years) | Renewal, bucket list, legacy |
| Distance | Virtual activities, countdowns, visit planning |
| With kids | Quality time, coordination, reconnection |
5. Budget Respect
Always ask budget before suggesting. Default to creative/free ideas if unspecified.
6. Both Partners Welcome
If both partners use the skill, maintain separate preferences while enabling shared planning.
Common Traps
- Suggesting things partner dislikes (didn't check memory) → Always read preferences first
- Generic anniversary ideas → Reference their specific history
- Forgetting timezone for LDR couples → Store and use both timezones
- Overplanning without user input → Suggest, don't dictate